I came across a blog post recently that was entitled “A hundred songs to save your life”, and the entire blog was dedicated to the
songs that this person had felt had saved their life at particular times in their life. Now I don’t know whether that’s a literal or metaphorical saving, but one thing I do know…music had helped this blogger through some tough times in life.
And isn’t that what music is really great at? It’s a companion with us along the way. I mean, no matter where you are, how you’re feeling or what you are going through, I’m pretty sure there’s a song that will be putting into words exactly how you’re feeling or what you’re thinking…and at that moment, when the song finds you, you’ll think to yourself “Hey! I’m not alone!”. Wow! How amazing is it that music can make you realise that you’re not on your own; that there are other people alive on this big ole planet of ours that know exactly what it feels like to be you.
I love that about music.
It never ceases to amaze me how such simple things like songs can help someone so much, even changing their life.
I was meeting with a good friend of mine, who incidentally had produced my most recent album
“A Heart and Soul Kind’a Thing”, to chat about a potential project that was coming up. As he was currently working for a local college, I travelled over to the city where the college was based. I pulled into the car park and having absolutely no idea how to find my way to the part of the campus where my friend was housed, I called him and waited outside for him to come and get me. As I was waiting a young woman in her early thirties came out of the entrance I was waiting outside, and as she did so she looked at me and said , “Excuse me. You’re Andi Oakes aren’t you?”
“Yes” I replied, smiling my best ‘I hope we’ve never met because I can’t remember you’re name if we have’ smile. You know the one I mean.
“I bought you’re CD.” she said. “Oh, that was you!” I laughed. “Thank you.” She smiled a gentle smile and continued, “I heard you sing in a Bookstore last year.” “Oh yes?” “Yes. I heard you sing that song about the angels.” “I ask for angels?” I replied. “Yes. That one. It’s beautiful.” As I looked into her eyes, I suddenly realised this was really important to her. “I want to thank you. I was in the store with my two little boys, and was at the checkout when I heard you sing that song.”
She proceeded then to tell me that six months before that, she had lost her husband to cancer. A young woman left without her husband and her two beautiful young boys without their Dad. “When I heard you sing that song, it was like I heard my husband singing it to me and had to have a copy of it. I want to thank you. Your song has helped me so much. When I get down I listen to it and head him, and feeling like he’s still watching out for me and praying for me.”
I didn’t know what to say. I was speechless. So I thanked her for sharing that with me, and she went on her way and I realised once again, that the right song at the right time has the power to help us…to heal us.
I shared this with my friend. It’s amazing to think that this project “A Heart and Soul Kinda Thing” that we both worked on and helped bring to life, brought even a little bit of life back into a home struggling with such deep grief and that’s it’s such a tremendous privilege to make and share music.
And I’m sure that you will have you’re own stories and songs to share too.